COMMUNICATION ALWAYS WINS

They say talk to your kids in order to save them from depression or things that have been happening lately whereas I say, talk to your kids with the intention of figuring out that where does your kid lacks? or where does your kid’s self esteem lies? which eventually happens to be an indirect way towards keeping them safe and saving them from such gloom-ridden thoughts of risking their lives.

Talking doesn’t necessarily has to be a long useless conversation rather a few simple questions about how was the day? or how did your kid’s school go today? now point to be carefully noted here is, that children require your attention more than a adult does, children wouldn’t care much if you won’t answer to their each and every question properly but they would definitely get offended if they catch you not heeding attention towards not even one of their answers to the questions that were made by you just for the sake of just talking and not listening.

What really is communicating if you are not even listening to what they say? If you are not even knowing the nature or power of endurance of your kids?. However you being a parent are not supposed to be an expert at it just relax and learn with your child, children learn that they can trust you when you honestly address their concerns, when you and your children talk about your family’s values, they’ll will think about these values when they make other choices in life. Learn to facilitate rather than taking over when you do so you learn what kind of a child you’re raising moreover it’s a witless idea to expect them to be strong even before trying to make them strong as nobody is master by by birth, a parent or an older sibling shapes them this way so that society’s shape doesn’t affect them no matter how hard the consequences.

Initially you need to accept if he or she lacks something or is not strong enough to face some things that may appear minor to you and then work upon shaping their minds in a way that from a very young age they start to learn that comparisons, competitions and opinions are a part of this world however it is you who have to make them rigid enough so that they let these things remain just a ‘part of the world’ and not let them become a part of ‘their life’ or ‘their concern’. Make yourself clear that just because you only see your kid as an infant even if he/she grows up doesn’t mean the world sees them the same way, things that you ignore at your home considering them hard for your kid might make them weak in the outer world for the rest of their lives, let them realise that even if they find difficulty in making friends outside they should know that they have you, no matter what and that communication always wins.